{"id":2373,"date":"2023-01-13T18:58:31","date_gmt":"2023-01-13T18:58:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hearttoheartcounseling.biz\/?page_id=2373"},"modified":"2023-07-03T22:31:32","modified_gmt":"2023-07-04T02:31:32","slug":"dimension-6-communication","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/hearttoheartcounselingla.com\/dimension-6-communication\/","title":{"rendered":"Dimension 6 \u2013 Communication"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Dimension 6 \u2013 Communication<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

How we express ourselves to our partners often informs how our partners respond to us. Do we focus on the negative? That is, do we say what we are not getting (\u201cYou never hug me when you come home from work”)? Or do we focus on the positive and ask for what we want more directly? For example,\u00a0I really appreciate you coming home on time, and if you would give me a hug when you enter, it would make my day<\/em>! What makes communication so vitally important to long-lasting romance, and what are the secrets to having intimate communication with your partner? Do you listen to each other in order to understand, or do you listen to respond and to be right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As human beings, some of the things that we all yearn for, are to be accepted, valued, loved, and cared for by the people around us. Communication is what allows that to happen. The more effectively we can communicate about what goes on within our deeper-selves, the easier it is for those around us to \u2018get\u2019 us, and then give to us what we truly want and need. Our ideas, beliefs, observations, values, thoughts, and emotions need to be understood and communicated for intimacy to gain a foothold. With each new experience that we encounter, we first filter it through our mind, which is both our personal history as well as the cultural do\u2019s and don\u2019ts we have been exposed to. In some cultures, talking about sex and sexuality is taboo, and the language spoken does not even have a word that correlates to the act of intercourse. We each have our own way of filtering. We are each unique because of the millions and billions of different experiences we each have, plus the meaning that we attribute to each of them, is different than anyone else\u2019s. The most valuable query that we can say to our partner is, \u201cTell me what it is like to be you in this moment.\u201d When that request is stated honestly, openly, and non-judgmentally, with respect to any topic that is on the table, both partners will benefit, as it is impossible for there to be a wrong answer. In our e-book on communication, we will explore in depth the many ways in which people communicate, which ways work to either create or destroy intimacy. The concept of judgement (vs. acceptance) can change a distant, disconnected relationship into a close, loving connected one.<\/p>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n

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