Dr. Robert Jaffe, Ph.D, LMFT

818-906-7079

drjaffe1@aol.com

Dr. Mitra Rashidian, Ph.D, LMFT, CST, ABS

818-745-1014

dr.mitra@hearttoheartcounselingla.com

Multi-Dimensional Relational Therapy (MDRT)

We have developed the Multi-Dimensional Relational Model of Therapy (MDRT) to assist individuals and couples in their ongoing journey towards self-fulfillment and loving intimate connection with their partners. Two other ways to look at the word intimacy is ‘in-to-me-see,’ or ‘see into me’. For high self-esteem and intimacy to occur, we need to see into ourselves, and allow our partners transparent access to all of who we are.

Multi-Dimensional Relational Therapy (MDRT), has been designed to help you …

  1. Create a new way of understanding how your current and past beliefs affect your self-esteem and impact your intimate relationships.
  2. Recognize when your ego-self (which always needs to be right) can interfere with your ability to feel love and be intimate in your relationships.
  3. Modify subconscious triggers (which are knee-jerk reactions) to thoughtful conscious responses.
  4. Understanding how you need to have access to your spiritual essence in order to create high self-worth and loving connection with your partner.
  5. Become aware of both you and your partner’s needs for physical and emotional closeness and distance.
  6. Create intimate communication, by commenting and focusing on what you like and want, vs. what you don’t like and don’t want in your relationship.
  7. Align respect and empathy, by emphasizing curiosity, and eliminating judgement in the face of disagreement.
  8. Discover how to understand, enjoy, and appreciate the similarities and differences in your partners’ sexuality.
  9. Become compassionate teachers and eager and willing students, by eliminating power struggles and seeing each other as equals.
  10. Increase your spiritual awareness by using MDRT to help you overcome your addictions and create heightened pleasure and satisfaction in your sexuality and sexual relationships.

Carl Jong, one of psychology’s greatest minds, coined the term Our shadow-self. This is the not so nice part that exists within every human being. It is the part that we attempt to hide from ourselves, our partners, and the world, yet it exists. The greater our understanding and acceptance of all aspects of ourselves, including the parts that we like, and the parts that are our shadow, the easier it becomes to show our naked authentic true-selves to our partner, which, by doing, gives our partner permission to reciprocate. This is frightening to most people and does include a risk. Without it, however, we remain caught in the trap of only showing the acceptable parts (or what we believe our partners will deem acceptable), and this becomes the recipe for co-dependence to occur.

The six areas covered in our MDRT model of therapy help to achieve this understanding of ourselves at the deepest levels.

In our upcoming e-books, we will introduce, explain, explore, and provide examples of how each of the six dimensions impact both ourselves and each other.