Dimension 2 – Spiritual Transcendence

What most couples say they want when they come to counseling is to achieve, “a more fulfilling relationship.” What we have found is that this usually has to do with one or both partners not feeling loved in the way that is meaningful to them. Sex, without a deep, meaningful connection can become routine and boring after a short while. It can feel like going through the motions, without the strong feelings and excitement that make it a profound experience. Often, the couples’ conversation also becomes routine and stale, and the joke that is told, “How do you know which couple is married when you are at the restaurant? It’s the couple that isn’t talking!” becomes all too real. We believe that most of us are born into this world as our authentic, loving, true selves, and we come here curious, honest, sexual, and trusting. We also believe that we have the ability to be calm, emotionally open and connected with others, as well as confident and compassionate. We define the enhancement of these and similar qualities as the opening to the Spiritual Transcendent Dimension. Spiritual transcendence has to do with our ability to put our egos’ needs as secondary, and our spirit’s needs to feel love and loved, as primary. The further along we are on this individual spiritual quest, the more powerful an impact it will have within our relationships, bringing both us and our partners what we treasure most.